It's becoming every generation for themselves. People have better lifestyles today, but they do work harder for it in my opinion. A working family does not have the time to look after elderly dependents. Fair enough. They should not begrudge other agencies that can, and also not bregrudge any elderly relatives spending what is appropriate.
I'm really interested in how your mother is faring Roger. I would like to get my mother into the same facility, but she is adamant she wants to remain in her house. So I'm having to start thinking about other arrangements like home help, renovating the bathroom so she has a walk-in shower, etc. I will probably take out a mortgage on my house to do all of these things.
Her mother was actually the same, and my mother nursed her right up until the end. I guess some people are built that way.